Why do Men Cheat?
I knew that would get your attention!
Why is that always the topic when women get together? Every brunch, every girls’ night, somehow it finds its way to the table. For years, I showed up for those conversations, not because I wanted to, but because it felt familiar, expected.
But one day I realized those talks never healed me; they just kept me replaying the same hurt in different company.
Why do men cheat? We will never really know, and the truth is it rarely has anything to do with us! So why does it still take up so much space in our conversations, our minds, our hearts?
Recently, I attended an event called “Charms, Cocktails, and Conversation.” Beautifully curated by Candice Denise. I knew the woman hosting it; she is a powerhouse speaker and life coach, so I knew I needed to be in that room.
When I walked in, the energy felt soft, safe, and feminine. Women were dressed in Persian-inspired attire, and the atmosphere was calm but alive. I only knew two people there, and I loved that; it gave me room to just be, no expectations, no history.
As the evening went on, we talked about everything: self-care, parenting, anger, loneliness, divorce, real things that touch every woman differently.
And then it hit me; no one had asked the question.
I raised my hand and said,
“I’m glad we’re not in here asking ‘Why do men cheat? I’m grateful we’re talking about us, about how we evolve when life feels heavy, how we move forward when we’re lonely, how we heal when no one even asks how we’re doing.”
The room shifted. You could feel it, women exhaling, opening, connecting.
For once, I didn’t spend the night moving from small talk to small talk; I spent hours connecting with women from all walks of life, learning, listening, and realizing that healing begins when we start asking different questions.
Maybe the better question isn’t: “Why do men cheat?”, but, why do we keep revisiting the conversations that keep us from healing?
Simple Girl Reflection:
She’s no longer asking questions that keep her stuck; she’s creating answers that help her heal. Growth happened the moment she stopped searching for reasons and started searching for peace.